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Online Dating Advice
Never say this in your fist email
Here's a little online dating email advice for all of you out there...
When you ask a woman for her phone number at the tail and of a great email exchange...
Do not under any circumstances ask her for her phone number. What the hell is he talking about you must all be thinking?
What I mean is, don't ask her for it. Take it! Say simply, give me your phone number!
When you say "Can I have it," you look as if you are lucky to be blessed with a potential date with her. This is such a turn off for women, whether that turn off is sub conscious or conscious, nonetheless, it is there. But say, "Give me your number and I'll call you, " now we have established a very confident tone and appear to be a male then always gets numbers when he wants them.
So what are you waiting for, go be assertive and take charge!
Say I'll Call You?
Phone game is often a discussion that we have in regards to online dating and dating in general.
One topic that is often up for debate is how a date should be ended at the end of the night.
When we like a woman a lot, we tend to get more excited at the end of the night and bring up plans for a second date.
On the flip side, when we are not too excited, we have more of a tendency to be vague and leave the second date somewhat up in the air.
With that said, I have noticed an interesting correlation. When I don't tell the woman I'll call her, I almost always get a text message within a half hour saying something along the lines of,
"Thank you, I have a great time. 
"
" When I do say I will call my date, those text messages are less common.
The likely reason for this is because we have increased the chase by showing less interest, and thus increased attraction.
This all goes to show just how strange the female brain is. The more they feel they need to chase, the more they want us.
So go against your instinct and try not to show too much interest in a second date at the end of the night. The dividends may just pay off.
Theres Never Too Many Prospects
These past two weeks I have been facing a problem that most people would love to have. Having too many people to talk to!
But is there really such thing as having too many women to talk to. What if we are talking to ten women who are clearly interested and only have three free nights in the next two weeks?
I used to worry about this problem once upon a time, but let's be realistic about the situation...
Those ten people will usually get narrowed down to around 7. Online dating can be very flaky with women online. They tend to change their mind a lot no matter how well you learn how to pick up women online.
This leaves 7 women for three nights.
Out of those 7, after talking to them for a week or so, 2 of them will likely lose your interest. They may not be as hot as you originally thought. Maybe their personalities are off. Etc.
That leaves five. Out of the five you will likely have three favorites at this point. Choose those!
I used to worry about "wasting" potential dates with beautiful women online. However, at the end of the day, there will always be ten more women around the corner. Online dating is just that huge right now.
So start big, narrow down, and enjoy more success!
Stay Away From The Experts
Recently I have been discussing the horrific nature of the media when it comes to negatively influencing the dating lives of men all around the world.
When it comes down to it, the dating advice that we all see on television by the self-proclaimed "gurus" completely destroys our chances at succeeding with our own love lives.
Why? Because they don't take the most basic aspects of our lives in context. They don't understand that all people are different. And they sure don't understand basic attraction principles.
But to top it all off, many of these gurus give advice that will only work if we are in certain economical positions, or born with a certain type of look.
To check out much more on this discussion, visit Don't Trust The Media at the ultimateonlinedatingbook home page, where I take a look at how shows such as the Millionaire Matchmaker destroy the lives of men.
Flakers
Todays online dating tip,
Always talk to multiple women at a time when attempting to meet women online.
This is a very important strategy if you wish to keep your sanity.
The reason for this has to do with the hundreds of flakers that populate the internet.
I can not tell you how many times in my life I have had a beautiful woman enthusiastically responding to my emails, when suddenly out of no where, they completely vanish off the face of the earth.
There is no rhyme, reason, or explanation. If one were to study the final email I sent before the girl disappeared, the emails would pass inspection on every level.
The bottom line is, many women are just flakes, no matter how good your game is.
So prepare for this by having multiple girls lined up.
Sit down on Sunday, email many, MANY women, and slowly narrow them down as the week goes on. Chances are a handful will respond, a couple will flake out, and you are still left with a great date!
Match.Com Review
Looking for a great online dating site?
I'm sure unless you live under a rock you have heard of Match.Com.
However, I am here to remind you all that this is one of the greatest, if not the greatest site out there.
What is so great about Match is just the endless amounts of women on there. And from my personal experience, the women on Match exceed any other website in the overall ratio of quality women to good looking women.
There are many drop dead gorgeous women lurking this site.
Perhaps the greatest part of Match is the winking feature. I personally like to wink at a bunch of very good looking girls before sending out messages. If they wink back, you know emailing them is a sure thing and could spend your time in a quality way, as opposed to using your time writing women who may or may not write you back.
So the next time you are looking to build you your next online dating profile, try Match.Com. It truly is worth the fee.
Advanced Tactics
Today I would like to talk about an advanced tactic for making your date feel as if she has known you forever.
This is the art of location switching.
Location switching means that you start the date at one spot, and continually move to new locations throughout the night.
This can be very effective for getting a girl to want to hook up with you at a rapid pace, and maybe even going all the way on a first date or second date if you play all of your other cards right.
The reason is it will put your date in a heightened emotional state. If you go to three places in one night, she will mentally feel as if she has been on three dates with you even though it has really only been one night out.
Three dates will increase the feeling as if she has known you for longer than she really has, and thus, will be more willing to hook up on a first or second date.
Genius right!
Great Aps
Sometimes we are all looking for a new way to provide a little extra entertainment on a first date.
Well one good strategy can be downloading a couple of funny or interesting APS on your smart phone, then pulling them out on a date.
A good AP will serve many benefits. For starters, they provide a break from having to personally entertain. Secondly, they will bring some added fun to the date. Finally, and perhaps most importantly, they will help you to physically progress with your date in a more intimate way.
This is because while you are showing your date the AP on your phone, you will be moving up close to her and hovering over each other. This close contact will help take things to a more intimate level.
So what is a great AP to use when meeting girls online? One fun AP you can use is called Songify. This AP is extremely fun and will have your date laughing instantly.
What it does is it takes any sentence you say, records it, then turns that sentence into an original song. You will have your date laughing heavily within minutes.
The key is getting creative. Provide her with lyrics that will make for a funny song. Or even try making one before the date, then when an opportune time comes up, tell her you have a present and that you made her a song.
Remember, the key to a great first date is being entertaining. Every little bit helps.
Want to learn more? Check out The REAL Online Game for more great information!
Choosing A Gym
So January is about to wrap up and with that departs the best gym membership sales of the year. This should be the month where you decide once and for all to get your health in shape!
Looks don't matter for online dating, but feeling good sure does help!
If you are going to get into proper shape, then you need to pick a gym that is right for you.
1. Get dirty. Clean and fancy gyms are for wimps. Sure they may look nice, but most fancy gyms will make you want to take a nap more than have a tough work out. Get in a grueling, dirty, Rocky 3 style gym. You will get much more out of it.
2. Do your homework. Some gyms are as cheap as $9.99 a month. If you are looking to do strictly cardio, this may be for you. However, gyms such as these often fail to have a large selection of weights and machines. Figure out your goals and price range before splurging a ton of money on memberships.
3. Take a trial run. Don't just sign up without working out first. All gyms offer a trial pass. Go once or twice, see how you like it, then make a decision.
4. Is it too crowded? Some gyms get way too crowded and are messy as well. Be sure that if you are signing up, you have a clean gym that is accessible at all hours without endlessly waiting around!
So what are you waiting for, get out there and sign up now! For more online dating advice, be sure to visit The REAL Online Game home page!
Looks don't matter for online dating, but feeling good sure does help!
If you are going to get into proper shape, then you need to pick a gym that is right for you.
1. Get dirty. Clean and fancy gyms are for wimps. Sure they may look nice, but most fancy gyms will make you want to take a nap more than have a tough work out. Get in a grueling, dirty, Rocky 3 style gym. You will get much more out of it.
2. Do your homework. Some gyms are as cheap as $9.99 a month. If you are looking to do strictly cardio, this may be for you. However, gyms such as these often fail to have a large selection of weights and machines. Figure out your goals and price range before splurging a ton of money on memberships.
3. Take a trial run. Don't just sign up without working out first. All gyms offer a trial pass. Go once or twice, see how you like it, then make a decision.
4. Is it too crowded? Some gyms get way too crowded and are messy as well. Be sure that if you are signing up, you have a clean gym that is accessible at all hours without endlessly waiting around!
So what are you waiting for, get out there and sign up now! For more online dating advice, be sure to visit The REAL Online Game home page!
New Online Dating Profiles For The New Year
Looking for some online dating profile tips?
Well you aren't alone. There is a reason why our online dating profile writing staff is the most popular on the internet!
Well today I would like to remind you all of the importance of incorperating humor into your profiles. Humor is the key to attracting interest and gaining a response. (As long as all your other attraction builders are properly set up)
The other day one of our clients asked for a profile makeover. After adding tons of humor to his profile, along with a few other attraction builders spiked in, he told us his responses went up an unbelievable 50% at least.
Why? It shows women that they don't have to worry about being bored or getting into a bad situation if they agree to meet you for a drink or some type of date. They will figure, well, at the minimum, at least I won't be bored! This is tremendously important.
Aside from that, what girl doesn't want a funny guy!
So makeover your profile this New Year's. And check out these online dating profile examples to learn what you should NOT be doing!
